You and your woman are spending a lot of time together, and suddenly it seems to make sense to take a weekend holiday. Stop right there! First off, it’s easy to make snap judgments while you’re still in the “honeymoon phase.” Second, make sure you know what you’re getting into. Traveling together is nothing to take lightly, because once you’re strapped in, you’re with her for the rest of the trip. When you’re enamored with each other, it’s hard to take a step back and get some perspective. Let us handle that for you. Here is some solid advice to go by as you’re making decisions about where, how, and when to take your weekend holiday, and how to avoid unnecessary tension and potential discord.
“When” Is the Most Important Question
We don’t mean “when” as in the month. When to take a weekend holiday together is more a question of when in your relationship? The best gauge comes down to figuring out how much time you’re spending with your girlfriend. If you’re going over to her place five nights a week and spending the night, it’s probably a good time. Even if it’s not five nights a week, if you’re seeing her regularly, you at least know that you enjoy her company. That’s what’s most important. On the other hand, if you have only been on a few dates and suddenly a weekend getaway seems like a good idea, think again. It might turn out well, but it’s very likely that it will be a disaster.
If you decide to go ahead and plan a weekend away, what destination should you choose? If it’s your first time away together, choose something that’s far enough away it seems like a holiday, but close enough so that if everything falls to pieces, it’s not too much of a hassle to return home. In other words, Wales and Scotland are safe bets, but don’t go gallivanting over to Morocco to enjoy the beaches. Let the first trip be the test, and if it goes well, then plan a trip abroad. You’re going to be spending a lot of time with her no matter where you go, as it always takes time to travel, and you’ll have a fair chance to see how it affects your relationship.
To drive, take a train or to fly, it depends on where you’re going. We always advocate keeping travel time to a minimum, because traveling makes everyone cross and ill tempered. That’s just part of traveling. However, she’s much more likely to recover, as are you, from a two hours car or train ride, than a six hour journey via coach to Paris. Keep the trip a low key, even though other locales are traditionally more romantic, and remember to have fun. We believe that one of the major indicators as to whether a relationship is worthwhile and functional is the ability to have a laugh, and if that’s not happening, it’s time to reconsider.