Dating Strategy for the UK #6: First Date Tips to WOW Her
So you’ve met a lady online.
You’ve been talking to her for a while, your profile was good enough to get her coming back for more, and you’ve led a great conversation. From here, the next step is obviously to take her out on a date.
Don’t worry, we’re going to walk you through it. There really isn’t all that much you need to know about a first date that’s so different with someone you met on the Internet. However, we still will give you our best first date tips so you can WOW the woman you’re meeting!
Decide where to take her.
The restaurant is a cliché for a reason! A restaurant gives you a set amount of time—the time that your food will take to order, eat, and partially digest. There are quite good reasons that the restaurant is the first date of choice for most people.
Don’t feel limited to dinner, however! A coffee date is acceptable, as long as you don’t try and pencil her in between tasks at work. A lunch date is also acceptable, if you’re going by the new set of first date rules in Britain now that the technological revolution has taken over.
Don’t go anywhere on the bad list.
There are some places it’s NEVER a good idea to take a first date. The biggest rule is that you should never take a first date somewhere you won’t be able to talk. That includes:
- Especially fancy museums
While each of these are excellent dates for later on in your relationship, none of them are good ideas for the very first time. You want to be able to have a conversation, not be completely focused on whatever else is going on in front of you.
SHE should be your focus, not a screen—and you don’t want to be pushed to the back of her consciousness, either!
Keep conversations light.
For a first date, everything you talk about should be light and fun. You’re not going on a job interview, so don’t act like it’s important to get an answer to every question right away.
You shouldn’t feel pressured to talk about anything you don’t want to—and if you are, you’re perfectly within your rights to tell this girl that you don’t think it’s a first-date topic.
Don’t discuss the big three.
There are three things that you should never discuss on ANY first date, and this is one of our biggest and most important tips for a first date, if you want it to go smoothly:
There are slight addendums, but in general, steering away from these topics is always smarter than engaging. While you might both have the same ideals, this still isn’t the time to find that out, unless it’s utterly important for you to make certain that you’re having a first date with someone who has the exact same opinions as you.
Rule of thumb: if it isn’t important enough to put in your profile, it’s not important enough to talk about on the first date.
Bring her a gift.
Seriously, bring her a little gift when you arrive. Don’t bring anything fancy, and don’t bring anything common, or you’ll completely ruin the effect of one of our BEST first date tips.
Bring her a little something that relates to something she likes. If she likes football and you know her team, bring her something about that, especially if you’re meeting somewhere the game is on.
Do NOT bring her anything common like jewelry or bath supplies. Those are strange, too-serious gifts for the first date. If you can’t think of absolutely anything related to something she likes, don’t bring anything. If you can’t think of something SMALL, don’t bring anything or she’ll spook.