“Find out if you want a second date with her or not”

You’re preparing for a first date, and that means figuring out a decent outfit to wear and a cool restaurant to take her. While those are still important, you can’t forget about conversing with her. Show me a date with too many awkward pauses in conversation or too detailed questions, and I’ll show you a last date. There are some important questions you need to ask your first date to make sure that you’ll mesh well and be able to take your relationship further.

“Are You Close to Your Family?”

This is one of those questions where the answer doesn’t have to be something you’re specifically thinking of. Most importantly – does her answer coincide with your family ideals? If she says yes they are very close and you’re not very family oriented it may be an issue later on. The same could be said for the other way around. If you’re the type of guy who calls his mother every day or has a Sunday dinner every week, then you’ll need to look for a lady who will fit in with that. Some women never want to have their own families and some don’t get along with their partner’s family.

“What Do You Think About (Fill in the Blank)?”

The blank can be filled in by anything important to you. It can be a hobby, your career, a movie that you love, sports that you play, etc. This is obviously something that’s important to you so you should figure out how she feels about it. It might actually lead to the two of you discovering some hobbies or something that you two have in common.

“Do You Like to Eat (Fill in the Blank)?”

“Ask her about her favorite dishes”

It’s important to figure out her eating habits. Not only will it help you get to know her, but later on you’ll be able to pick better restaurants for future dates and possibly make her a meal at home. She might be allergic to certain foods or have chosen a diet of her own. Many people have become vegetarians, vegan, gluten free, or sugar free eaters. You will be considerate and informed.

“What Music Do You Listen To?”

The same goes for books they read or movies they like. Music, books, and movies are totally individualized and give a view into their true personality. People don’t always reflect who they are by the clothes they wear or the way they style their hair. If they consecutively enjoy media that you find horribly boring or butchered, then it’s going to be a challenge to find things that you can watch/read/listen to together. But on the opposite side of the coin the two of you could love similar things or even introduce new material to the other. The arts can create a stronger bond in people than many other forms of entertainment.

Feel free to personalize these tips to you. You might be really into cooking or designing as opposed to reading or watching sports. The whole idea is to think of what’s important to you in your life and figure out what’s important to her as well. Just because some ideas don’t fit together perfectly doesn’t meant that they won’t with a little effort later on.