Dating Strategy For the UK #2: Dating Profile Tips
The dread of many men when setting up their dating site for the first time is the dating profile.
This can be the bane of many prospective daters. This is the one thing that will separate the amateurs from the pros, and you do NOT want to be labeled an amateur.
If you’re skilled at making up your dating profile, you’ll be very well prepared for the rest of your time on the sites you choose. A good profile can easily be the difference between a woman emailing you back and a woman never wanting to contact you again.
Keep it simple.
No woman is going to come on to a dating profile and read a list a few pages long about what makes you special. She doesn’t want a man who has to talk that much about himself to try and seem interesting, she wants a man who’s interesting enough in a few paragraphs.
Make sure you tell her the most important things about yourself, and move on to the next topic as quickly as possible. The only time you should ever list more than three things about yourself in the same section is if you have a section that tells you to list more than three things.
Keep it current.
Many men make the mistake of trying to look cool, or at the very least trying to look about as cool as they were several years ago. They put up old photographs, put up old interests, and in general, try to look as if they’re still young and fresh when they’re anything but.
You don’t want a woman to look like she’s disappointed when she first meets you. Trust us, that’s far more damaging than not getting back that crucial first email.
If you have a profile that represents yourself as you are now, you’ll never see a woman’s face fall when you show up, and that’s a tremendous weight off of your shoulders. You won’t have to worry about her finding out the truth if you let her know what the truth is directly.
Your picture is important.
Yes, you MUST have a profile picture. There is some strange conception that men don’t need pictures on dating sites, but trust us, no women agree with this statement.
Your picture should be chosen carefully. There are three things to remember when choosing the picture for your dating description, and we’ll tell you right now that a photograph should be:
1. Well-lit (no one wants to look at a grainy, blurry photograph)
2. Easy to see (a sharper image is better)
3. A photograph that looks like YOU.
If you can’t find a photo that fulfills all these criteria, you’re drastically hurting your chances of doing well on a dating site. Women like to be able to see what they’re going into.
If you think you can’t get a woman because of your looks, think again. Women don’t care nearly as much for looks as it seems in TV and in films. What they do care about is being lied to. That’s why you should always make sure that your profile picture is current and looks like you, rather than being designed to snare a bird’s attention.
Talk about your work—a little.
Yes, it is fine to mention your work. However, many men take this piece of advice and run with it, which is a bad idea all around if you’re trying to find a woman to date.
If you find yourself talking about your work more often than you’re talking about the things you enjoy, you’re going to need to scale it down a bit. There is more to life than work.
If you act like work is the only thing that matters, work is the only thing you’ll have.
No woman wants to play second fiddle to your job. She wants to know that you’re working, and what you do, but she doesn’t want to be always competing with the office for your attention.
Talk about hobbies instead.
You should be sharing with these women that you’ll potentially be dating what you WANT to do, not what you’re FORCED to do. The more you talk about the things you love, the more that enthusiasm carries over, and she’ll be interested.
Make sure you still keep it short and sweet, however.