You’ve been dating her long enough to take your first proper holiday together. Let us tell you mate, this is a tricky one. No matter how much you enjoy her company, the first holiday is always a gamble. You are going to be in each other’s presence for extended amounts of time and you’ll see all kinds of things no one wants to see – what she looks like after hours of travel, what happens when she’s hungry or tired, and many other things. To be fair, she’s also going to see the same about you, and inevitably it’ll all come out in the wash. You can’t prevent any discord these things might create (it may not even be that bad, but you really can’t tell until it happens), but you can at least set up some safety nets. A pinch of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
Choosing A Failsafe Destination
There are several different types of holidays: party locations, like Ibiza, secluded cabins in the country, large cities, and destinations abroad. We suggest focusing on something that has the least amount of travel time. Traveling wears on everyone’s nerves, and the longer you’re required to stay seated, the more irritable you and your girlfriend are going to be. Therefore, if it takes hours and hours on a bus to reach the English shore, but only a few to fly abroad, choose the airplane. Overall, choose a destination where downtime is at a minimum. For this reason, if it’s your first holiday with her, do not opt for the remote cabin, regardless of how romantic she thinks it sounds.
Inevitably, you might get into a disagreement over something, but this is usually because the restlessness and fatigue of travel puts everyone in a bad mood. The best way to handle a disagreement is to suggest something that’s universally appealing for travel weary people, including yourself. For example, if you’ve been traveling all day and haven’t eaten yet, suggest getting changed, taking a shower and going out for a low key meal. This will ease any tension between you, since that type of suggestion appeals to anyone who’s been stuck on a plane or train, hustling with luggage and trying to keep a schedule. Relaxation is always the key when you’re trying to ease a tense situation.
Overall, when you return, did you laugh? Did the good outweigh the bad? The first holiday together is a milestone, but it’s also a test. If you can’t travel well together, can you even imagine living with her? If you’re considering getting serious with a woman, see how she treats you after being subjected to long hours of travel. If she’s a bit cranky, that’s to be expected – you probably are too. However, if every word spoken during the trip makes her explode at you, maybe it’s not meant to be.